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Acceptance through detachment

Without fail, every time I try to push or force my personal reality into existence I face an immobile Force that pushes back. I then get frustrated when my desire is not manifested. For instance; even as I wish to create this blog post I am being interrupted through my Facebook Messenger. In this case, I am attached to the idea of completing this blog post and the interruptions frustrate my desired end state. And then, through the conversations I'm having on the Facebook messenger, I am further tasked with things that will interrupt my day. These interactions are not inherently bad. They simply do not fit my worldview on what I imagined the day would be.

My attachment to the situation is the direct cause of my negative emotions and frustrations. The obvious solution would be not to have any attachment. Without attachment I would not have these negative emotions, but I also would not have any positive emotions either. Or is this assumption wrong? This brings into context the word apathy.

An interesting etymology of the word apathy comes from the Greek. “A” without, “ Pathos” suffering; is exactly the state of mind I want to be in. There is a direct relationship to suffering and attachment. Then the goal must be to detach myself so that I can end my suffering. Because the suffering is caused by the distance between what is in my head and what actually happens. When I let my ego determine what is good or bad, that becomes true suffering.

I will leave you with this, is it possible that our suffering in this world is due to our mental constructs of what we think the world should look like? Is it the attachment to these ideas that are the root cause of our frustrations? I conclude then that finding detachment from the egocentric ideas of what we think the world should be, is key to finding balance and happiness in this life.

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